Thursday, 16 February 2012

Some random thoughts on happiness

I think there is an art to happiness.  Life happens, stuff happens that can blind-side us and send us off course but overall I think happiness is a choice.  Something you need to work for, just like anything else worth having.    And when I say work what  I mean is putting the effort in, making that effort part of your life  and accepting with grace that the outcome won't necessarily be perfect.

For me, happiness lies in being present.  Engaging with those around me,  noticing the detail of my everyday life.  Because here's the thing.... everything is constantly changing and once you've missed a detail that's kind of don't get another chance at it.  That sounds a lot more dramatic than it's really meant to!  It's more a reminder to pay attention and watch out for the joy.   It may be fleeting sometimes, but it is most definitely there.

The kicker for me, being completely risk-averse, is that life is not static.  Happiness also seems to depend in large part on how you react to change.   Embracing it, letting old stuff go and letting others find their way and fly, no matter how much you may want to hold them close.   Risk is involved in all of these and I don't think you can have a happy life without embracing at least some risk.

Of course, I talk a better story on this than I actually deliver. But anything that helps me notice and appreciate the everyday helps in my happiness path....exercise, healthy eating, enough sleep all put me in a place where I am able to be more open to the joy in my life.  Creativity and photography in particular help me slow down, notice the details and gather the memories that I will cherish for years to come.     Sometimes it seems selfish and flippant to spend time on my blog, spend resources on ecourses or books or art supplies.  But happiness comes from within too.  Growth and change comes, and needs to come, from yourself as much as from the things and people around you.   Knowing who you are and filling your soul brings contentment.  And really I think contentment is key.

The trick for me is in the detail. Approach everything with a child-like curiosity.  Celebrate the everyday, no matter how small, no matter how small the celebration.  In my experience it's amazing how it adds up to a whole load of happy.

Written for Kim Klassen's Beyond Layers.


  1. Very interesting thoughts, thanks for sharing Becs! Happiness can be found in different places depending on people tastes and likes.
    But every single being can make the simple choice of happiness. It does not mean life will be a path of roses but that at any given moment you can reach out to happiness within you.
    Very precious lines. Have a lovely day!

  2. Becs - these thoughts feel anything but random. Instead they feel as if you have given much thought to what you need to be happy. Even the fact that what will make us happy - change, taking risks - is not necessarily what will make us comfortable in the short term. Lots of food for thought here.

    1. They started off very random, but I'm glad I managed to write them with some cohesion. It's a bit rubbish to read otherwise! Thank you for your kind words.

  3. What a wonderful positive post! :) I am with you, we should always remember to celebrate the everyday.
    Have a lovely Friday and weekend ahead! xo

  4. Wonderful and inspiring post. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I try to let go, react to things positively and be 'aware' everyday. I'm not always successful but I'll get there hopefully; one day at a time.
    Have a great weekend!

  5. I so agree with you, that happiness is a choice we make each day! I'm no Pollyanna and everything is not always rosey, but even in the tough times we can look for a bright moment. Thanks for your thoughts, they were a great reminder.

  6. I'm getting caught up this morning on my favorite friends and their blogs... oh I guess it's afternoon in my google reader :) Please forgive me. I have not been a very good blog visitor and email writer these days.
    Lovely post! There is a quote I have always loved...
    'Today I choose joy'
    that's what I thought of when I read your words. Really nice reminders to embrace the little things that are so joyful.
    Belated Happy Birthday to Moo! Loving all your photos! LOOK AT YOU!!!!
    Cheers my dear!
    XO Tracie

    1. Hey Tracie, nothing to forgive, lovely to have you back. Fabulous quote, thank you for sharing it. Hope you've had a great weekend. Don't disappear again, OK? ;)


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