This year, I'm working through Simple Abundance by Sarah Ban Breathnach. This was originally recommended in Beyond Layers but I held off buying it - I couldn't really justify it and it is big and a yearbook (shouldn't I start in January?) and, and, and.....And then I was in my local charity shop just before Christmas and there it was for a £1. Messaged received.
I'm really enjoying it - it's about a page a day so entirely manageable. And although much of it is not new, I find I need constant reminders about gratitude, simplicity, living mindfully, self care and so on to keep me on track. Last week, though this passage really sprung out at me and has had me thinking ever since:
It should be straightforward, this knowing what we love. But it seldom is. After decades of letting other people influence us - the media, the magazines, our mothers, our friends - we're going to have to go cold turkey. The only opinion that counts from now on is your own.
It's ridiculous, but I realise that I struggle with this all the time. I feel like I am swayed by all those things and as a result, spend a lot of time comparing myself (unfavourably, I might add). So what is it that I truly love?
I am starting with the advice in the book - creative excursions with a notebook. Go with my gut, notice what jumps out at me. Note them down. Maybe add a little to my pinterest boards. Little pieces of the jigsaw puzzle of me.
A couple of years ago I read Style Statement by Carrie McCarthy and Danielle LaPorte, which is well worth a look if you're struggling with this too (it's not just about clothes!). I think it's time I revisited it too.
So, how about you? Do you know what you love?